As the confetti settles from the New Year's celebrations, Ashley and I are here to chat about the resolutions that feel more like a warm hug than a mountain climb. Let go of the 'go big or go home' mentality and join our conversation where we celebrate small, consistent steps towards personal growth. Instead of falling into the trap of social media's perfect life portrayals, we get real about the joy of recording podcasts in daylight and the unexpected beauty in life's messiness. Together, we laugh, share, and perhaps shed a few tears as we embrace imperfections and the attainable goals that reflect who we truly are.
Have you ever looked at your closet and felt like it represents a time capsule of your past self? Well, Ashley and I have been there and we're ready to unpack the emotional ties to material belongings, and how they shape our values. We delve into the beauty of minimalism, the freedom from high-end expectations, and the authenticity that comes with choosing possessions that genuinely resonate with our current selves. It's a heartfelt purge of the old, and a welcoming embrace of the values that define us today.
Wrapping up with perhaps the most tender part of our journey, we discuss the intricate dance of guilt, self-care, and setting boundaries, especially for the mothers in our midst. It's about finding balance, being present, and giving ourselves the permission to rest without guilt. Whether it's exploring healthier family habits or rediscovering personal joys post-COVID, this episode is an open invitation to join us in a conversation that's all about growing at our own pace, prioritizing mental well-being, and the careful art of saying no. So, grab your favorite cup of tea, get cozy, and let's talk about setting realistic goals that honor where you are today.
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As the confetti settles from the New Year's celebrations, Ashley and I are here to chat about the resolutions that feel more like a warm hug than a mountain climb. Let go of the 'go big or go home' mentality and join our conversation where we celebrate small, consistent steps towards personal growth. Instead of falling into the trap of social media's perfect life portrayals, we get real about the joy of recording podcasts in daylight and the unexpected beauty in life's messiness. Together, we laugh, share, and perhaps shed a few tears as we embrace imperfections and the attainable goals that reflect who we truly are.
Have you ever looked at your closet and felt like it represents a time capsule of your past self? Well, Ashley and I have been there and we're ready to unpack the emotional ties to material belongings, and how they shape our values. We delve into the beauty of minimalism, the freedom from high-end expectations, and the authenticity that comes with choosing possessions that genuinely resonate with our current selves. It's a heartfelt purge of the old, and a welcoming embrace of the values that define us today.
Wrapping up with perhaps the most tender part of our journey, we discuss the intricate dance of guilt, self-care, and setting boundaries, especially for the mothers in our midst. It's about finding balance, being present, and giving ourselves the permission to rest without guilt. Whether it's exploring healthier family habits or rediscovering personal joys post-COVID, this episode is an open invitation to join us in a conversation that's all about growing at our own pace, prioritizing mental well-being, and the careful art of saying no. So, grab your favorite cup of tea, get cozy, and let's talk about setting realistic goals that honor where you are today.
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Welcome to Millennial Moms Unfiltered, where your host Ashley and Brittney. On today's episode we're going to be talking about the New Year, New you, bullshit that we're trying to get rid of Because there doesn't need to be a new you, but it is a new year, so without further ado, here we go. That was very hosty, but you know what I mean. You know that's what we want.
Speaker 2:We're hosts, dammit Also, I'm trying really hard not to look at the fucking floor, but I keep looking at the computer.
Speaker 1:I do too, just for I figured out that if you look at that, yeah for time, but I feel like you need to look up Where's your move. The computer, oh well, so you guys know our computers on the floor because we're. It used to be a table when we're at the studio.
Speaker 1:Last week you may have noticed that we changed locations and there's going to be a third change in location, but that's going to be it and that's where we're going to land. So we're working with studio space, but today we're actually at and yesterday her last episode. We're at Brittney's house and the lighting is a vibe. It's also our first daytime recording and I think that works out better. I like daytime, I'm more awake.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's also the weekend, which during the week it's just like school and early wakeups with the kids and drop off and pick up, and extracurriculars and appointments. It's exhausting so having to like leave the house when it's dark out, when you're like be. Yeah, that's difficult I think we're going to do some daytime recording from now on.
Speaker 1:So far, we're vibing way better with this, so I feel like when this is posted it'll be almost halfway through the month and I feel like by this point people realize.
Speaker 2:Are they sticking with it or are they giving up?
Speaker 1:I may have been too ambitious. I may have been too ambitious with the goals I set and being a health and fitness coach online. The new year, you see a lot. Everybody wants to lose weight, super extreme dieting.
Speaker 2:Jims membership spike up in the new year.
Speaker 1:Even though I want new people to come to the gym. I want to see everybody be healthy. I want people to move their body. I don't go to the gym in January. You won't see me there because I know 80% of those people are not going to be there in February.
Speaker 2:It's also just packed. It's not even that like. I don't care if you don't want to get the gym.
Speaker 1:No, it is packed, no yeah, no, exactly, and that's what I'm saying. It's not, I don't give a fuck what you're doing. Yeah, I just there's no room and I don't like, I don't like that. So first thing I want to talk about, we're going to get comfy on this one. First thing I want to talk about is being able to set realistic goals.
Speaker 2:Yeah, goals I feel like you should always have. I feel like you always have a list of goals that you're trying to achieve.
Speaker 1:But it's just like the new year is. It feels like a clean slate, it's like when the month begins on a Sunday or Monday. For me, oh, that makes my dick hard.
Speaker 2:It does feel really good? No, it does.
Speaker 1:It just feels like you're really, it's aligned.
Speaker 2:Like this feels right.
Speaker 1:It's a real clean slate. It all just lines up real nice, fine yeah. But that makes me feel like if I'm ever going to set a goal this year, the new year was on a Monday it was.
Speaker 2:I was also. I was creating, I'm creating a planner on Canva by the time it's available. It might be like May, but I am creating it and all of the days were aligning up with my pages correctly.
Speaker 1:It was so easy.
Speaker 2:It was making me so happy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, that's the best, and that's the only thing is because there's no such thing as time. If you tuned in last week and we're talking about spirituality and all of the things, it's the same kind of thing. There's no, it's not real. Not if it's real, we're not real. This is just. We're just here for right now. Go off. We're having a great time. That's what it's about. But if we want to feel like we're doing something in this meat suit, it doesn't have to be the most. It's like the forever situation around New Year's. New Year's, all the bullshit is to do the absolute most and you need to throw yourself away and just start over.
Speaker 2:And the comparison to other people.
Speaker 1:Right, because you see online, yeah, but it's so fucking easy to manipulate images, timeframe, what you have, what you say, it's all curated because that's what you want people to see. We're at Millennial Moms Unfiltered. We want to be a goddamn mess? No, we don't, we don't, but we just don't. I'm fine with the fact that I am. We're going to share the mess that we are so that you don't feel bad about the mess you are. Yeah, that was the goal.
Speaker 2:Yeah, just be real. We're being real Because I haven't sat New Year's resolutions.
Speaker 1:I feel like I'm just now.
Speaker 2:I sat down and wrote resolutions out. I did write manifestations out this year, which.
Speaker 1:I guess are kind of the same thing. It's kind of the same thing, but it's just like it doesn't have to be the New Year to do that. It's a good time to do it. I didn't do it on New Year's. I didn't do it. It wasn't the thing last week.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I did mine in the new mood.
Speaker 1:It just feels like a good time to revamp, restart, just clean things up, purge, get rid of things. Yeah, I need to purge, for sure Not throwing up. We're talking about just purge space.
Speaker 2:Well, this kind of ties into our last episode, but I feel like if you don't get, If you're desiring all these things like if you want a new couch, if you want a new, If you want to paint your space, you want to get a new Anything really, if you want new things you need to show that you're ready to do that. You need to get rid of all the shit in your house. It's like taking up too much space. I need to purge so badly in this house. There's between my kids and me and Pat. We have so much stuff I need a dumpster. Yeah, You're not ready for that kind of.
Speaker 1:I started doing that last year and it's literally taken me a whole year. I just did my second cycle of my closet. I got new cubby things for shoes. I got rid of all my shoeboxes, I reorganized where everything was folded. I still need to go through things that are hanging, but everything that's hanging is shit that I'm keeping because I threw out everything last time. As someone that's in recovery for an eating disorder for the past, at this point, 10 years, I was holding onto Brittany, yeah, pants from high school. Why, that's, that's not gonna happen. It's not gonna happen. It's not gonna happen. It's not gonna happen. All right, these are I. These, these hips have have spread open to let life Out three times. Yeah, it's not happening. Okay. So I finally got to a place mentally where I was like there's just no point, and I know that and looking at them is not doing anything for me mentally and I'm in a space where I'm just like fuck this. So I took it all out, got rid of all those things and we started over.
Speaker 2:I have so many. I have so many clothes from when I Worked a real job. But when I went, when I got up and went to work every day, especially Johnson and Wales, I wore skirts, dresses, heels, like I was doing too much. But I loved fashion. But see, the thing is everywhere that shit again, I don't even fit into my.
Speaker 1:You don't even have to get rid of all of it. It's just you just yeah, most of it, because is there times that you're like, oh, I have this that I need to go to and I really could use that shirt, and then you'd like, do wear it. That happens to me all the time. But I don't need all of those things I don't need. I don't need ten Jackets I don't need. It's just not it, I think that I have blouses. No, we're wearing sweatshirts and leggings. And in a real life, what I live?
Speaker 2:in and that's what. This is my dad's High school sweatshirt.
Speaker 1:He went to st Ray's in particular Ripped like yeah, but that's like the best and I'm not like and that's the vibe we're investing in and in Accepting like why? Don't, I want to spend the money and time and energy on Items I'm not gonna being less like consumery.
Speaker 2:I feel like I don't want to. I Know that sounds so like hippie dippy of me, but like I feel like my entire life has been about like getting the best of the best and the nicest of the nice and like Showing off this like version of you that like maybe not even doesn't exist, like I've never been.
Speaker 1:Like I feel that you I also don't one thing, though I I don't give a fuck about that, and I don't do it for appearances, but as a Capricorn I accidentally like, without wanting to, will choose the most, it's just the most expensive option really expensive.
Speaker 2:Taste like love's, finer like glamorous things in life. I do the exact same thing. How do I pick up the $300 shirt on this rack? Yeah, everything else is 1799.
Speaker 1:Half the thing, also the duality of that is just because it is the most expensive. Like that's not why I'm doing it. I and it's not at what I find valuable. No, that's not the right word, not value. Yeah, where I find value does it's not the price tag that doesn't deem it because? Because this is what's the hottest thing of the season, that's not why I'm getting it. It's just like what I deem valuable, like certain things. What is something I will not spend the fucking money on?
Speaker 2:I don't buy designer bags. Oh, don't carry a purse either.
Speaker 1:Geo just bought me a Kate spade and I was like get me an Amazon bag that's like 30 bucks because I'm off with that. I've got coffee stains on that bitch already. But in my, in my cream, off-white era, I cannot, I will not, I don't want to. It feels wasteful to me, like I, I don't know. There are certain things that I find value in because I like them. I will spend the money on. I use it, whatever. Purses, 100% or not it. Shoes I don't like spending a lot of money on shoes. I keep trying to find how I can fuck the system on that jackets. But things I will spend the money on gym clothes.
Speaker 1:Yeah sports bras, that's really it.
Speaker 2:So I was actually talking about this recently with the whole Stanley craze. I don't have Stanley, I have yetis. They're all gifted to me like I've never bought this. I've never I have. What do I do is from my brother and sister-in-law Me, it has one that says mini this, probably from Amazon. It keeps my eyes cold for two days.
Speaker 1:I don't, that's what I'm saying. Geo's Geo is like what is? He say Stanley, keep that families at. I'm like okay, white bitch, who are you like? Um?
Speaker 2:I don't care if I people are into, but right cool.
Speaker 1:But it's just not. I yeah, I'm not gonna do it. I do simple, modern, and that's like what? 3940 bucks, whatever. So even then I'm just like, oh, but it's like it's a cup, but it's, I use it every single day. Cups are all the time notice the kids cut.
Speaker 2:If you want to get a good cup from like Target or whatever for the kids Like for their lunches, that stay, they don't leak. Yeah they say cold, like $30 for a kid's it's the same price.
Speaker 1:I was the big 40 ounce one might. The one I have is a 40 ounce one and it looks like a Stanley, but it's again, it's a nude color. It literally matches this. It's still like 40 bucks and it pains me, I'm just like, but I'll do it because I I find it valuable but with that whole craze, like and people like shitting on it, I don't care.
Speaker 2:But my mom and I were having this conversation and I was like I literally don't, like I don't care for them, because I just what. I'm like, oh, 40 bucks, I could like buy something else with that, or 50 bucks or whatever it is. But she was like, yeah, but you have a hat that you spent $275 on.
Speaker 2:I was like it was custom and it was from a small business, like right fine, right, I find value in like, in supporting a small business and like that that directly pays for that person's bills, like in their house, and it was also artistic and created by hands hands that's what I find value. And I find value of someone creating something and like having a small business, but like Again, I'm not shitting on anyone else, but like I, I've spent that money. But again, I don't own a Michael Kors bag. I know I have one Kate's fade bag.
Speaker 1:I have a Kate's fade and Michael Kors and the rest of them are just cheap whatever, because I know I I beat those to fuck it um, but like and it's not my thing, I don't care about purses that much.
Speaker 2:I don't I need, yeah, I just like a carry what I have to carry in, yeah, and this one's even too small, like I can't keep.
Speaker 1:I like to keep the kids like Because I don't do diaper bags anymore, so I like to have the backpack situation and my other one I would be able to put everyone's drinks and cup holders, and this one doesn't have cup holders. I can't throw the kids bottles in there and it's just like it's a pain in the ass. So I love that. My husband wanted to give me something really nice.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but it's not practical for me and that's not where I would spend money in your life either because, like again, we're wearing old sweatshirts and leggings all the time and like, why do I want to carry on this designer bag when I'm probably gonna spill coffee on it?
Speaker 1:There, do you see the coffee stains on this on the side has paint.
Speaker 2:When I went to go paint that, when I was painting that mural over the summer, I brought my backpack with me. It has, like, blue paint on the strap. I can't get off.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and so if I, I, if I find it valuable, then yeah, I'll go, I'll spend a fuck ton of money on it, but I'm super stingy Anywhere that I don't find value, so I'm not gonna do it to, to, to to, to, to, to, to, to keep up with appearances and if you guys are doing this cuz the Stanley and you are the original Stanley cup supporters cool.
Speaker 1:but I'm definitely not gonna do it just to say and and there's people that I'm not gonna say who they are, but they'll be like why don't you look at the kids? Why don't they have them? They don't fucking care about it.
Speaker 2:Oh, why am I doing that so much money on sneak designer shoes for me? If why? She did not need van, she did not need sparrows, she did not need like you, she did not need.
Speaker 1:I see them pop up on Facebook all the time. You're trying to sell them because. But it's like she didn't wear it, did she didn't?
Speaker 2:care. She's a pair of leopard vans that she never wore. There's so cute.
Speaker 1:I spent $65 on them for a toddler shoe Right same thing but here's a thing, geos family does that, so we get hand me down, to hand me down, to hand me down, and they circle around the family. So I love that. Yes, one of us will spend the money and then the next one like, okay, I'll do that, but for certain things, like his everyday shoes, I'm buying his ass sketches, which even they're still expensive as fuck like $60.
Speaker 2:Kids were crocs a lot me recently has just been dressed today she. She had on a like a olive green shirt and leggings and she put on these like sparkly pink Mary jeans and I was like it was still raining out when they left and I was like I don't know, I mean, she put like sneakers or boots on, is still kind of wet out, you, but I'm wearing green and I don't have any green shoes because I don't have enough options. Oh my god.
Speaker 1:Okay, and it's not that the kids aren't worth it, but it's like.
Speaker 2:They're feet grow too fast that and and they ruined them. They're like.
Speaker 1:Amen. I was watching him drag the tops of his shoes, oh my god. Well, why am I buying Nike's? I'm not, I'm not know what are those?
Speaker 1:great, great spot or all we have like boots that are like, that are like if we're gonna get dressed or go out or whatever, and they have like those kind of nice shoes, okay, but then we don't wear them every day, but for their everyday shoes. My kid does not have to show off every single fucking day. It's not gonna happen, because I know if you watch him, if he did those two like he's, you got you sneakerheads would be fucking mad.
Speaker 2:Well, wait, listen, this is I'm was picking up me from school yesterday I doubt this kids, parents are gonna ever gonna watch this podcast or whatever Picking me up from school and a girl, a girl in kindergarten I don't know it's her class or one of the other ones, but it's definitely kindergarten came out and her shoes were untied and it was Nike. It was a pair of Nikes. Nike's are laces, are untied and there are scuff marks on them and the laces were all dirty shoes like stepping on them. And this kids parents both of them were like what did you do to your shoes? Like you're not taking care of them. Why do they look like that? Cause you're a five year old to school, see.
Speaker 1:I don't understand. I'm gonna tell you what.
Speaker 2:Like mind blown, not only like whatever you're gonna send them to school, fine, but I was mind blown at the being mad at her. I didn't care.
Speaker 1:The thing is, if I, if that's what they want and my kids are like oh, I really want them, okay, whatever, fine, okay, yeah, oh, I'll, I'll get them for you. But if you're gonna be mad when they get dirty, these are not the shoes for you because you're going to continue to wear them. Right, if these are your everyday shoes that you want to wear, you're going to wear them. So we don't do white shoes. We don't do all that Because I'm not gonna put the stress on myself and I'm not gonna drill that into my kids head that a material object is more important than you living your life.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, I won't.
Speaker 1:It doesn't make sense to me. We're so off topic right now. This is the new years.
Speaker 2:We're saying we're gonna cut out consumerism. I said I was gonna cut out consumerism, like for example we're 18 minutes in, listen to me.
Speaker 1:We're 18 minutes into this episode and we've been talking about kids shoes. We're supposed to be talking about new years resolutions.
Speaker 2:The first thing to stay on top of it this is horrible.
Speaker 1:This is what happens during the day. We have the energy and time. Talk about it.
Speaker 2:I know the other episode is just like are you done yet?
Speaker 1:Oh my god, it was just like okay, gotta get out, and you're just like we took everything apart. No, what are we talking about? We're talking about, okay, new years fads.
Speaker 2:I was gonna get rid of my new year. I was throwing out that I wanted to be less materialistic and like less caring.
Speaker 1:Yeah that kind of stuff, like my car and that's a good one having a good car and in the same same thing, we just went off on all kinds of consumers, consumer thing, but that's what's been happening at the beginning of this year. It's been all these crazy things, but the same time, the new years fads are always like lose weight, throw everything I own out. What's another one? That's that everyone does for new years, thinking they're literally going to reinvent themselves completely. You don't have to be losing.
Speaker 2:It's like losing weight, working out, like having new, like they're eating right, having like just new, trying new things.
Speaker 1:I think it's, but everyone always goes Balls to the wall with it.
Speaker 2:don't do that well mostly because, like so I just found a place that I want to sign up for classes. I found a place that actually has like a good variety, I think will be a great place for me, and I wanted to say I was like I want to do this one and this one and this one and this one, and I was naming all. I'm like slow the fuck down, pick one.
Speaker 1:So pick one for next week because then you get overwhelmed. And that's the same thing what people do with their weight loss with if I'm gonna lose weight, I have to eat baby carrots. I'm not gonna do anything. I'm gonna eat three carrots for every meal. No bitch, you're a grown ass woman. You have a hormonal system to support, all right. When you do that, your body goes crazy. Yeah, don't do that. You need this year. You know we're gonna do. We're gonna support our bodies. We are not going to do 5am wakeups if we usually wake up at 9. We're not going to pretend where someone we're not. Because you want to do the most of new years why you're not even reach those goals? Because you are setting yourself up. I swear to God, listen how many clients I've talked to like this on the phone, on our calls, on our calls. Yes, that shit does not make sense. That does not make sense. Christina, why are we doing that? It doesn't make sense.
Speaker 2:No, I do think that people over wear way too overzealous, like I don't know. If you do it, I do it. If I go too hard, I quit.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but most people don't have the self awareness. They think they failed and then they they go into a depressive episode about it. Too many things to do. They get real hurt about it and it's this time of year that that shit happens. You were too ambitious, but guess what? We have a lot of year left. You don't have to throw it all away. You have to look at your life. Look at your knife what no? Look at your life. What makes sense? What is your actual schedule? What time do you go to work? What time do you come home? When do you feel most energized?
Speaker 2:is it realistic that you wake up 45 minutes earlier to get that workout and you should create new life goals for people like work, like get all that information from them and design like you have to, and then you have like the fucking fit influencers.
Speaker 1:What are they called? Yeah, fit influencers that are like we all have the same 24 hours and a day. No, we don't bitch. I ended up. I'm guilty, and when I first started my Instagram and I used to be that preachy I kept all those posts up and if you scroll back to 2017 and you look at that the progression when I'm like I kept all that stuff so that I can't be called like you don't know what you're talking about, or be called a hypocrite or whatever, and out there's posts that I will address those other posts.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it becomes, really become more accepting of like the way that my body work and I know that I need space and time to like recoup and I used to think I was lazy and I wasn't doing enough. Like I know that, like my body just can't.
Speaker 1:Right, and why are you setting those goals? Are you setting those goals because you feel like you want to lose weight? Why do you want to lose weight? What's the motive behind it? What's the reasoning behind it? Is it a superficial reason? Is it An extremism is never the way to reach any goal. That is the way to burn yourself out, and we're all about self preservation and self awareness. That. How many and how many episodes where? What six episodes in at this point? How many episodes have you talked about self preservation? Stop the stress before it happens. Yeah, it's, it's. It's the same thing with new years. Okay.
Speaker 1:So if your goal is weight loss, what is realistic, what is really something that makes sense for you and this is coming from someone that is now back trying to get into my daily workout routines that I really do need to feel good, that, not even physically, just like mentally, just overall. Like, okay, get those endorphins going. I'm not going ball to the one. I still find myself yeah, pick up the heavier weights, make sure you do 15 reps. No, I know that's counterproductive. I know that's not what I need right now. Monitor yourself, check in, have those conversations, secals that make sense. If you're not, you know, first of all, you don't need to spend two hours working out. 40 minutes is a good workout time, right?
Speaker 1:If also you're not and it doesn't need to be every day either.
Speaker 2:Like so my entire adult life. I've always been a gym goer until I had kids, and then I stopped with him. After me was born, I had a personal trainer for a few months and I did really well. I was eating really well, I lost a good amount of weight, I was getting stronger, like I was lifting a lot, and I don't dislike it, but I just feel like it. I don't feel connected to that anymore, right, and I knew that going to get a gym membership wasn't going to be for me, right. So I found a fitness place that offers dance classes and fitness classes and like it there are a little more alternative and, like I want to move my body, I want to connect with my body, I want to be more physically fit, but I don't want to dread doing it like, why would I?
Speaker 2:put myself through like I strongly dislike sitting in a gym and lifting weights, like I just don't some people love it. I do like my thing is I was getting tired of my own workouts.
Speaker 1:Like I have a workout style. That is someone I feel good about making plans for other people, because I what is your life? Look like I can do it. And then and that's okay, my client, I have so much success in their fitness journey. But it's like when you're ready your own plans, you like what are we gonna do more deadlifts? Oh yeah, I know my style, it's not exciting. So I signed up with another trainer For her programming and I'm like, oh, this is so exciting because it's brand new. How she does Is not the same way my brain works for workouts, so it's exciting again.
Speaker 1:And for me with ADHD and all of the things and kids and and that kind of stuff, I I'm just like Over, it's boring yeah but that weightlifting, like I did the orange theory and I still kind of like it, but it's like to cardio based, I don't want to do that. It's, it's Too much. You know what I mean and I like doing it sometimes, but like the class is thing is like a once Week, maybe twice a month thing for me.
Speaker 2:You know it's not an all the time thing I just I rather left than do cardio. I mean like I rather lift weights, them like walk on the track, run on the treadmill.
Speaker 2:Yeah, first like like first is going to a class. I rather do that. But I like strength training to like I know that I'm going to need to like once I get some weight down I'm gonna have to start lifting to. But I just some people just like they love reaching new PR is like they. Like they love competing against themselves in the gym, or like that it brings them like more mental clarity. Or like helps with their depression, helps with their like. I don't feel that at all.
Speaker 1:I like dread it knowing into a gym knowing yourself is the biggest thing, and knowing what's what do you like you? Maybe, if you don't know what you like, maybe you shouldn't just, yeah, go crazy about these classes and signing up for them and doing the most if you don't know what you like, jim hop, do the trial periods for all those things right.
Speaker 1:Oh and I we talked about this a couple episodes back that I went on a thing recently that I did, that over the summer I signed up for for the first trial classes. I found out a whole bunch of different things that I like for different kind of workouts, versus, you know, at home workouts. But I'm like you know, like I, but what? What I found is I need to do it at home because of my schedule. Yeah, I get stressed out. Okay, the drive to the class. I have to come home, I have to get the kids ready to school. After get them to school, then I do my like it. Where does it work out alone?
Speaker 2:though during the day right Cuz. Geo's home, but he's working so it does all fall on me.
Speaker 1:All the kids are at school three days a week, I know so. But even when, when Amon's home, I Know that after I bring everyone to school, okay, then I come home, all right, amen, mommy's gonna have her workout time now and then I have like 20 to 30 minutes that I know he's not gonna bother me. So those two days a week, like I, or get him involved, like I have to find a way to like To do it and I have to force myself to do it, cuz, going to the gym, going to a class, then bringing everyone to school or taking care of whoever I have home that day, and then on the days of the kids go to school, I have to podcast edit. And this week, so right now, we're recording on a Saturday for Wednesday episode. I only have Monday, their home from Martin Luther King Day, so I don't have the day that I would be at it because it comes out Wednesday morning. So now I have to find it on a weekend.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean? Yeah, like figuring out all that stuff and the gym I'm like working out at home takes away at least 40 minutes of travel time. I'm going to the actual one-hour class, like it takes up so much time. I don't have that doing it. I know that I have my 40 minutes that I'm gonna do at home, and then Whether I shower after that is my own business. All right, I know myself, I know that that's what I figured out for me and that's what you have to do for yourself is like, can you get it done? Does it feel good if you do it this way, like all the things, you don't have to do the craziest shit and Wake up at four o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, the fitness conversation, that was a huge one. We'll move on to other New Year's goals, or well, let's you know what? Let's talk about what we have. What are our goals for this year? I know that I just thought about what I really wanted to do and I need to Not say yes to other people. Focus on the node. That's what keeps coming up, for my human design is say no more, don't do things because you feel bad, like I have to keep reminding myself that, like I'm not responsible for other people's joy. Yeah, I so I have to.
Speaker 1:Right, I feel like I've gotten better at that, just as I've gotten older. But so saying no, prioritizing myself, not feeling like I have to get it all done in a day and not feeling guilty about it, that's always my thing.
Speaker 2:It's it's always. My mom has asked me why I feel so much guilt. I was like I don't know how. What do you mean? How do you not? I feel guilty about everything I know it's probably Something has mom guilt.
Speaker 1:Something about probably like something we did in our childhood or whatever. Like I know my mom, she, I, okay, so this was really what, looking at my mom's life, and she always, she always did for everybody else. She never asked for anything. Like I don't want to live that same life. Like I don't want to not have a life. Like I think about things that my mom said, oh, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna own a beach house, I'm gonna do all these kind of things, I'm gonna travel, and Never did on that. She died before she got to do any of that. I don't want to live that way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel bad, like I feel bad that she didn't get to do the things that she did, and I think about her life, not in a negative way, but just sad. And it's not that her life was even sad. Like she loved us, we had good times, like I, we have good memories. Like she wasn't like that, she wasn't miserable. It's just it's sad that, yeah, that she didn't get to, yeah, or she didn't know how to put her soul first, and I don't want to do that. So, yeah, bitch, say no to people, say no, you don't have to do it all, it doesn't all have to be in day. That's a big thing for me. And prioritizing myself and and Reminding myself that it's not selfish to do those things, that's my thing.
Speaker 2:I have a few. I definitely want to be more present with the kids and Patrick.
Speaker 1:I feel like I Definitely pick up my phone a lot and disassociate and just like we feel like you need a break and you're, just like it's easy to like.
Speaker 2:If I'm overstimulated, I will pick up my phone and start scrolling just to like Try and get my brain off, like away from whatever's happening. Um, but I feel like it's also out of habit, like when I was full on into Running the VIP group for the Boudoir page, I was posting every hour and I was answering comments and I was checking notifications and I was Answering emails. I was always doing something for the business and part of Part of closing the studio was also like a nice reset, like I have hacks for that like time yeah.
Speaker 2:I need to like step away from the bit, like Maeve has told me that she wishes. I like didn't have to work because I'm. There was a period of time where I was always. I was all between that and my work and my Remote job. I was always working and. I wish you didn't have a job, because even though I was home, you weren't present for them at all. So I'm really, really trying to be more present. That's a huge one. Like sometimes I'll just have my phone in my hand and like I'll throw it.
Speaker 1:I'm not supposed to have this right and that's a calm. I'll put my phone in a different room, like I'll. Okay, so you get up in the morning, you check your phone? Okay, maybe I have to deal with this right away. I don't even do that and I don't charge my phone at overnight anymore. I do it in the morning. So I get my morning routine done and then, if I pick it up and then whatever it's usually During whatever- and then.
Speaker 1:I have the period where I get the kids and stuff. I'll like throw it, put it away and then I'll check back in. So then I give myself like an hour or whatever and then at like dinner time goes away and then I give myself from like Six to eight and then at eight I put it back on the charger and that's me and Geo's time, yeah, and so I put it away and I've turned my social media notifications off. That's been off for years. I just said that on social. I did a story about it the other day. I had to turn that shit right the fuck off. I don't have any social media notifications or any of that, because, no, how, how do people just like oh, I can't look at it and be like I'll do that later. I know I can't either.
Speaker 2:I get like I see you look at it. You get wrapped in it I know if I don't, if I, if I, if I look at something that I know that I don't have the time to answer right now and I look at it, and then I don't have the notification there anymore.
Speaker 1:You forget.
Speaker 2:I forget.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I used to feel when I days, when I first and then this is what led me to turning off the notifications was that like if I got a business inquiry or whatever. But oh fuck, I have to do that right now and then I get wrapped up in there no nope, no, I asked me for pricing.
Speaker 2:I'm immediately doing it like I could be at day. I could be my mother-in-law's house on a Sunday. We're having like dinner and spending time at family and I'm like doing work, that's why I used to do phone-free Sundays.
Speaker 1:I would not, I wouldn't. And then the next day because they tell you like, oh well, you know, if you don't answer right away they're gonna sign with somebody else and it's like but here's the thing, if it's for me, it'll be there. Yes, they get the manifestation and the mindset behind that it, what's mine, is already there, it's already for me. So if that was really a client that aligned with me, she'll be there when it is.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and that I had to really hard Frame of mind to get into, because I kind of it's with that way with photography, to like, oh it's, like it's it's building a habit, it's a new habit.
Speaker 1:It's the same. It takes Reworking it, but you have to like really just.
Speaker 2:Yeah, do it basically have to be like way more carefree and just like trusting that things are gonna work out? Yeah, my other one is I do want to start moving my body again. I didn't like give myself a specific like weight loss goal, but I just want to be like forming healthier habits with like body movement and what I'm putting in my body.
Speaker 1:I did that with food I started. I haven't tracked for a long time and like periodically I will just to make sure I'm getting enough, because I will like Not get enough protein if I don't pay attention sometimes. So I'll do it every once in a while, but I started tracking every day All my meals, all my food, doing that and it's been like six days now and I feel so much better. I never had a binge eating thing, but the past few months I developed a binge eating thing Like emotional eating, emotional eating late night.
Speaker 2:Like I like to snack late late after, like after dinner.
Speaker 1:I. So I switched out things like I made things based around protein and vegetables, but like fun things like I just you know. And then I noticed since doing that, my energy is better, I'm not having like wild dreams at night that yeah, scary dreams, that kind of stuff and I feel better, like my digestion is better and which, in turn, has helped my autoimmune stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah well that's where I am moving my body. Eating foods that are not helping with the autoimmune and I think that I'm like super, that's a big thing too.
Speaker 1:It's like sugar and stuff. Like I like sweet stuff, like things I don't touch, like I don't track or give a fuck about Coffee calories because, like I like my coffee to taste how it tastes, I don't give a fuck. Like I do that. And then I Work in like one sweet thing For like each day. Yeah, because I do like sweets. I used to not be like this, but I feel like as I'm getting older, I'm liking sweets more. But it's also part of autoimmune thing that it gives you like it fucks that up more and it fucks all that endocrine shit up.
Speaker 2:I love ice cream. Ice cream is my.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Geo's like that too. If there's ice cream he'll do that, and I'm not really huge on ice cream.
Speaker 2:There's always ice cream in our house, yeah, which is terrible, but like so like if you work that and that be your thing when I was doing keto like I would buy the Whatever it was was like that top top something, or I don't know, but it's a little top.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm just gonna, I'm gonna say this you don't need to do keto if you don't have a Neurological reason to do it to. The human body's main source of energy is carbs and you have to work yourself into ketosis. You can't just jump. It is not good for your brain, it is not good neurologically, it's not good for your hormones. It is not good, you don't need to do. Could keto? Did you lose the weight? Yes, because you were in a caloric deficit, not because of the fat. That was the PSA.
Speaker 1:That's horrible, horrible. Yeah, you lost the weight.
Speaker 2:I came right back but it's because came right back. You went right back to the carbs.
Speaker 1:I didn't even that was the extra calories, but if you cut that easy in it, yeah, if you cut out a whole food group in any way you're you're gonna lose weight because you're in a calorie deficit. It's not because of what you cut out, it's because you're eating less calories overall. So if you cut your calories by 200 calories, you're gonna lose the weight anyway.
Speaker 2:Yeah, some people go real hard with like the fat aspect of it with keto I guess I would did more of a lazy keto like I did not like Did my bacon and mayonnaise like the way some people like you got to add fat, I was like no, I will do to make up for the carb, but I would like, but you're making up the palies I eat a lot of avocado. I wasn't like yeah.
Speaker 1:I wasn't see that doesn't even make sense. That's why I was saying when I was I started tracking and I didn't realize that my fitness pal did this, but that it, when it Tracks your steps and stuff, it adds that calories back. So I'm eating what I'm eating in calories. But then so I had my, I was already like 600 calories in for the day and then I looked and I was like how the fuck do I have this many calories left? I'm like doesn't even make sense. And I'm like, oh, it's adding what I took in workout steps back to To what I was. But I'm like, then you're not losing any weight.
Speaker 1:You're not so by. It's not the fat that's making you lose weight. Dumping the putting the bacon and mayo. What the fuck?
Speaker 2:you're just eating those calories, like cuz you're supposed to have, like you're supposed to reach the fat percentage For your daily intake and if, like you're not, they're like just add it, just add butter, just add bacon, just add me. Like not eat, like of course, they in cart, like of the right way is encouraging Healthy fats like olive oils and avocados and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:But if you're down on on carbs, I feel like me personally, how I eat it's really easy for me to get the fats. You know what I mean. Because when you you're Carbs and fats I don't want to say they're interchangeable when you're tracking your macros and calories, they kind of are like how you like finagle how what food you're eating. It's pretty easy to do that. So when you see people doing extra shit like that, it's like you don't need to be doing all that.
Speaker 2:I just keep it over before I got married and it was not Maintainable and also I cannot see me being able to do that with kids, like I'd have to have an entirely different meal every night. You don't need to do that, no, it nobody does.
Speaker 2:I'll never do keto again, but I want to for as far as, like nourishing my body, I want to be like eating foods that are benefiting me, like right foods, like stuff with antioxidants, stuff that's gonna help me just feel better, more ginger, more honey, like healthier foods that add Add things to your life, not like not heavy processed foods right.
Speaker 2:I'm foods like the good carbs, not bad carbs, stuff like that. So Like we're all like my family is pretty good about, like Pat cooks, pats the cooker and family. I do not cook but Pat cooks pretty healthy for the most part. We don't like keep a lot of junk in the house, like the kids snacks for school, but like nothing crazy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's my thing too is I would like there's ice cream in the house.
Speaker 2:We don't keep a lot Like I don't have a lot of Doritos I don't get bags of chips I don't get, like they get, goldfish crackers, the granola bars and fruit sex we do. Cheese is cheese sticks. Yogurt, fruits and vegetables they like.
Speaker 1:Oreos and I like cookies, like I like the chocolate chips. Ahoy that I was eaten. Like I would wake up at night and be like I could eat a fucking cookie and I would do it. And then I gained. I was on ozempic for six months and I lost like 30 pounds Through that. I rebound weight, gained like 15 of those pounds because of the emotional eating I was doing and I'm like yo, you're stressed out and that's what I'm like. No, you have to fucking get your shit back together because you're one on doing all of the stuff like I wanted to lose weight, cuz like my knees were hurting, my joints were hurting, in In with the auto immune stuff, I was dying. So the weight loss really helped me and I'm like you're getting yourself right back to that place.
Speaker 2:That's where I that's, so. My goal for weight loss is definitely more about health.
Speaker 1:Yeah, cuz like.
Speaker 2:I have arthritis in my back and my hips and I have Two very messed up discs. I have a herniated disc and a torn. That are they the same thing torn and herniated?
Speaker 1:one's bulging one's torn yeah torn is like soft tissue, like in between, and then herniated as it sticks out.
Speaker 2:Yeah so I have two fucked up discs in my lower back. Um, I'm, I'm pretty positive. I have an autoimmune disease, just nothing's been fully diagnosed yet. So that's part of my resolution is to like I need to get you that holistic doctor's number. I keep forgetting yeah, advocating myself this year to get my health under control. Body movement, eating more in like, intentionally, and listening to my body.
Speaker 2:Um, and then Saying resting prioritizing rest, stop overextending what you can actually do out. Very when I burn out, I burn out hard and Then you and recover yourself back out yeah hard. A last year ended up hospitalized Because I just don't take care of myself or prioritize off.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it ends up in a whole bunch of not funness. Um. So yeah, you're definitely rest. I'm saying no.
Speaker 2:No, no, do do me. They love that was part of oh yeah, finding joy, intentional joy, I'm sure joy like painting more, spending more time with like my friends, spending more time with like, like socializing, because I feel like I've Lost a lot of who I am Over these past five years and again.
Speaker 1:That's normal because of motherhood, but just like you need to find yourself in that and snap, snap out of it, work on you and work on getting your life back.
Speaker 2:Like Kylian's gonna be in school next year granted, it's only gonna be for two hours a day, but I'm gonna be slowly starting to get time back and like figuring out what I love, figuring out where my strengths are, like yes, I have skills and like abilities and degrees, and like where I should be putting energy into like a career maybe someday. But I don't know what I want to do. I really want to focus on art. I don't.
Speaker 1:I focus on art and I think that when you come off like especially post-covid, the moming in this past, like four years if you've been a mom or particularly this era of moms is, I think, a whole new breed.
Speaker 1:Particularly young children. This is way different in finding yourself and losing yourself. Then I went through with Eden. Like Eden's now 11 and I'm thinking about my toddlers right now how much I've had to throw in. It was draining, it's a lot, and coming back from that and the rest that needs to come from that. Like you don't need to. When you get some time back, it's okay to take naps during the day, you know what I mean. Like you don't have to start a new project and just give yourself that time, that let down. Like, oh, I can take a fucking breath now. If you do nothing those days that he's in school for the first few months, that's fine, you don't have to pick up a new project.
Speaker 2:We have to remind yourself that it's okay to rest and not feel guilt, because the idea that I would just nap for two and a half hours and not accomplish anything, I'm currently do that.
Speaker 1:I did that, yeah, like yesterday. I was like I'm fucking, oh my God, it was so over the top. I went into the room, I was stressed out, I was doing all the driving because of Eden, picking him up from his new program and stuff. I come home and the kids were like their usual, like hyper self, and I'm just like so tired. I was like why don't you just stay in here for the rest of the night? I was like, yeah, right, and I'm fucking crying there and he's like damn, she's really going through it. And then I fell asleep for two and a half hours and then when I woke up I was like, hey, I'm sorry. He was like, no, I know, you needed that nap. So I was like I let myself have that nap. And then husband understands that, I know, Thank God, thank God, do you?
Speaker 2:need a break. He'd be like go take a bath. That's my, that's our thing. He goes to take a bath and I go take a bath and he hangs out with kids and I listen to music or sometimes I watch TV on my laptop and I smoke weed and I enjoy that bath for very long. I'd refill it. I'm in there forever, yeah.
Speaker 1:And that's so like we're lucky that we have that, and I realized that there are women that that aren't in relationships like that, and that's that's tough. I don't even know. I was like I could do the things that I was like stressed out about having to do so much easier after that, Like you know, and sometimes it's so necessary and it's that's what I'm saying Like when Killian starts going for however many days or hours, it's okay to fucking chill during that time instead of being productive.
Speaker 2:You need to take a nap. You don't do anything, you're staying home. I can hate that. First of all, but people really.
Speaker 1:I feel like we're starting to realize that that's not a real thing anymore. I hope so.
Speaker 2:Because not only physically. Yes, I clean the house, I do the laundry, I am the chauffeur. Yeah, all that. I'm the mental load of being the primary parent, of doing all the, all the things. I take care of our finances, like Pat makes the money, but I'm in charge of all the bills.
Speaker 1:Oh, I couldn't do that because I'm in charge of all the finances.
Speaker 2:I'm in charge of all the appointments. I'm in charge of all the functions, the social functions. I'm in charge of all the extracurriculars. I'm in charge of, like, just doctor's appointments, like it's exhausting.
Speaker 1:Like just and just knowing, like having like a to-do list that's for the most part in my head and I have to just you know, what I started doing I to keep track of my stuff is I bought the planner and I always buy planners. I'm going to start doing this and I never do. But this year, right from the beginning, I started writing down like, okay, today I have to do this, I have to do this, I have to do this. Whatever, I don't check off on those five or six things I bring down to the next day and whatever I have like throughout the week that I know I have to do on certain days, like I'll just like add, so I have like six things to do and I'll just like carry them out. And then at the beginning of the week I have priorities. So I have three priorities that, no matter what, those are non-negotiables, they have to get done. And that's kept me so much more on track because I make myself look at the beginning of the day like okay this is what I have to do.
Speaker 2:I don't know if it tells me to put notes on my phone, but I need to write.
Speaker 1:I know writing it makes it real. That's how I feel. That's how I feel too, I go to school or college.
Speaker 2:even If I was studying for a test, it wouldn't even be that we were allowed to have a cheat sheet. But if I rewrote all my notes, that's how I would remember things.
Speaker 1:If.
Speaker 2:I'm writing out my task. I need to do the physical writing.
Speaker 1:That's how you keep it and that's how I remember things too, Doing it on my phone. And then it sets off the alarm and I'm like I have to do that. It's time for that already. I'm like shit, I didn't do any of the things. I have to have my own separate thing. It doesn't work well for me. So yeah, writing it down in the planner and having a bookmark for each week, it's really keeping me on task and less overwhelmed with all the float ideas that I get in my head. So that was a New Year's thing that I hope that I keep throughout the year, because it's felt really less stressful, even though I have way different things happening Schedule-wise.
Speaker 2:Yeah, what are some things that you want to spend more time doing? I know it's a more thing that finds you joy, but I definitely want to focus mine on painting and maybe just doing more for myself, like leaving the house.
Speaker 1:Right now I feel like I've been Some of the things that bring you joy. I don't know Having a good time. I'm out, I'm out Right, and we talked about this last week or the week before too, and I'm having a hard time. I'm having fun working out, I'm having fun prioritizing myself, but I'm supposed to choose joy. Do things to make me happy.
Speaker 1:I started baking, kind of I got to go back to my sourdough journey, not even super nitty gritty baking, it's just things like that I can be happy. Feeding my kids makes me happy, new meals, trying things like that. I'm having a lot of fun editing the podcast and creating content around that, which has still been. That's a good thing for the podcast, but it's been hard to find the time to carve out to do outside of the actual editing, so that's been a little bit sporadic.
Speaker 2:I've had a lot of good struggling with content stuff in general.
Speaker 1:I want Brittany to fucking take over the editing for all this.
Speaker 2:The video editing or not even that you know what I'll do the video editing.
Speaker 1:It's creating the vibe, the aesthetic for the page. I feel like I've done. I'm just like no, something's wrong, I don't know, I just don't have the spark there, I know.
Speaker 2:I feel like the creative side of me is lying dormant right now. It does that.
Speaker 1:You have to do it. The painting, that pancake painting. I told Gio about it and he was laughing his ass off. He was like this is a really good pancakes. I know she felt like doing it, so it happened.
Speaker 2:I know, I was just like and my dad was like did someone commission that, or did you just come up?
Speaker 1:with that. No, I just said it this morning.
Speaker 2:I just felt like it was just like painting, painting.
Speaker 1:That's what come up. I'm like good, that's happening. I'm like I'm not going to fucking ask her to make this look normal. So I'm exploring it and I'm finding things that work and I'm deleting things that don't, once we have enough things and I'm kind of reformatting everything.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to find it, find it and eventually I think that and I'm having a- good time doing it.
Speaker 1:It's not like I'm not miserable doing it, but I get hyperfixated on it and then it becomes not fun, so I'm trying to stop myself. So what do you see that the?
Speaker 2:way the videos got for me, I became hyperfixated on it and I questioned everything I was doing in the editing process. So now, when you were like, why don't you have a podcast, I'll do all the editing, I was like, as long as you're doing all the editing, because I cannot edit another video ever again yeah, the videos so far have been difficult just because the lighting in the studio.
Speaker 1:now that we have windows and we're doing it, the lighting is probably going to be way better, so I'm excited to fuck around with these videos. We're getting off topic again.
Speaker 2:God damn it. Well, we're almost coming to it close. For this episode we have yeah. You guys should write us, send us messages about your New Year's resolutions.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what are your New Year's resolutions? Was it a ball to the wall New Year's resolution? And then we can help reframe that. You don't have to go fucking crazy. Before you set any goal period, look at your life. What can you change realistically and what is that non-negotiable in your life? Do those goals fit into what you have in a day?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I feel like what's your most important goal? Maybe don't focus on three to five at once. Maybe just do one at a time.
Speaker 1:And it doesn't If it's a physical goal. What is that physical goal? What are you really trying to get done? Do you feel less than? Are you tired? Is it something else that you're pushing on a physical goal?
Speaker 1:I don't know, I just thought about that the other day. I need to find a therapist that I actually vibe with. It's so hard for me. So hard for me too, Because when I'm like, they're like well, what brings you in? And then I'm like okay, ready, that happened in a four-year span. And they're like when I get this, look, I'm like this is too much for them. They don't know how to. I've compartmentalized so much that they look in their face. When they hear about what happened to me in a five-year span. They're like have you processed?
Speaker 2:Oh, I'm like okay, no, yeah, no. My problem is that when they find out I have the technically, the professional training to do what they're doing.
Speaker 1:They get intimidated, not intimidated, they get nervous.
Speaker 2:I feel like they're not doing their job. That sounds so terrible, but I feel like so many times they'll say something they're like well, you know that right.
Speaker 1:And it's like no, can we pretend I don't have? Yeah, I do know that, but I don't have it. Don't say it. I used to do that when.
Speaker 2:You know. You stop acting like I'm super high functioning because of that.
Speaker 1:When I went to the doctor, when I was working as a medical assistant and had training in certain areas, and at the time Epic, which is computer software for healthcare, I had the training in that. So then it would become like I was also working there because I knew shortcuts on how to do certain things. So I was just like stopped saying that at doctor's offices that I had the training or where I came, because I would get annoyed that they were doing the wrong things. So I stopped even saying that or they would get weird with me. So I just stopped saying that I had any medical background at all.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I just don't even say it. Don't say you went to school for that or wait a while. Don't say it first thing, yeah.
Speaker 2:Well, it's usually on the intake papers.
Speaker 1:Well don't.
Speaker 2:Your highest degree of highest level of education, stuff. But I also, because I know what I'm doing. If they're not giving me anything new or different or exciting or like, okay, I'm telling the same story Also. I've never gone into like this could be for a whole other episode. I don't know if I want to get into it right now, but I've never explored trauma because I felt like I had a relatively normal childhood.
Speaker 2:But I'm learning in like the past year or so, that I do have some trauma stuff that needs to be addressed, and I've never addressed any of that in therapy before because I always thought my life was so perfect.
Speaker 1:Right, but that's also like a story you tell yourself you have nothing to be. There's no reason you should feel anxiety around certain things or you shouldn't be sad about this.
Speaker 2:Yeah, my parents are super supportive. I have a really close family. It's like no, there was still, but it's also.
Speaker 1:Trauma isn't always like someone locking you in a closet and beating you. You know that's not always. Which is stuff that I'm learning this year? Right. Trauma can be something smaller or something that may seem insignificant, but to you it was like an imprint that really like controlled the narrative for everything. Yeah, it's the whole thing. Unpacking your trauma is really interesting, but you have to be really up for it, because you should be ready for it.
Speaker 2:Maybe that's why I never went into it before because it wasn't in a place where I was ready, but I think I am now. Yeah, it's nothing crazy. I wasn't like abused.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but something that's traumatic for you, right.
Speaker 2:It's all about your brain processes things.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And especially if you are neurodivergent, your brain's on a process thing differently.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:So all right well.
Speaker 1:All right, well, there we go. We're going to end on that note.
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