Ever wondered what it's like to leap into the entrepreneurial waters? Grab your life vest, because we're revealing the gritty details of starting our own businesses—a photographer's tale of turning passion into a professional LLC and a personal trainer's evolution from Instagram newbie to online coaching success.
Through the lens of my camera and Ashley's weights, we're sharing the step-by-step journey that could help you carve your own path in the bustling market of personal ventures.
But it's not all business talk; we're getting personal and diving into the hobbies that fuel our fires. From the meticulous art of podcast editing to the enchanting world of eclectic witchcraft, we peel back the layers of our hyper-fixations. Listen in as Ashley confess to being a chaos witch who mixes spell jars and the intimate role of beliefs in shaping our identities. We're all about embracing the quirks and interests that make us who we are—wonky audio syncing, crafting inspired by kiddos, and all.
Then, let's unwind with some daydreaming and griping—because who doesn't love a good rant or fantasy? Imagine the perfect day off or the thrill of a lottery win; we're indulging in all the possibilities and dishing out our takes on them. But we don't stop there.
Get ready for a ride through the pet peeves that get our goats and the fashion trends that have us cringing (or secretly admiring). And, because we can't contain our excitement, we're also giving a sneak peek at our upcoming podcast merch. It's a smorgasbord of dialogue that's sure to stir laughter, nods of agreement, and maybe the odd facepalm. Join us for a session that's as diverse and lively as our personal interests!
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Ever wondered what it's like to leap into the entrepreneurial waters? Grab your life vest, because we're revealing the gritty details of starting our own businesses—a photographer's tale of turning passion into a professional LLC and a personal trainer's evolution from Instagram newbie to online coaching success.
Through the lens of my camera and Ashley's weights, we're sharing the step-by-step journey that could help you carve your own path in the bustling market of personal ventures.
But it's not all business talk; we're getting personal and diving into the hobbies that fuel our fires. From the meticulous art of podcast editing to the enchanting world of eclectic witchcraft, we peel back the layers of our hyper-fixations. Listen in as Ashley confess to being a chaos witch who mixes spell jars and the intimate role of beliefs in shaping our identities. We're all about embracing the quirks and interests that make us who we are—wonky audio syncing, crafting inspired by kiddos, and all.
Then, let's unwind with some daydreaming and griping—because who doesn't love a good rant or fantasy? Imagine the perfect day off or the thrill of a lottery win; we're indulging in all the possibilities and dishing out our takes on them. But we don't stop there.
Get ready for a ride through the pet peeves that get our goats and the fashion trends that have us cringing (or secretly admiring). And, because we can't contain our excitement, we're also giving a sneak peek at our upcoming podcast merch. It's a smorgasbord of dialogue that's sure to stir laughter, nods of agreement, and maybe the odd facepalm. Join us for a session that's as diverse and lively as our personal interests!
The Summer Collection is live! check it out here:https://millennialmomsunfiltered.myshopify.com/
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Hello and welcome to part two of Millennial Moms Unfiltered episode, where you guys ask us anything. We're back. Yeah, we're back With more questions, so let's get into it.
Speaker 2:What did I say? I already scrolled past the one I read on last week. What was the?
Speaker 1:process of starting our business. Yes, um, this is for both. What are the first steps you took to start your businesses?
Speaker 2:britney oh photography okay, I bought a camera. No, um, I actually bought a camera. No, I actually bought a camera before I decided to start a business In 2019, I bought a camera, I started taking pictures, I started offering free photo shoots just on my personal Facebook page to build up some clients, and then I'd say by the end of 2019, I had already set up a business page. I was taking paying clients. I had to set up Square, I had to get insurance, I had to pay for all of my software and, yeah, the Facebook and the Instagram page were the biggest the two things I think. I had my website set up by the end of 2019 and my LLC in 2020.
Speaker 2:So I did go the route of formal limited liability corporation. Limited liability corporation had an EIN number for taxes. I pay taxes, my whole. I still pay them five years in business, pay them every year, um, because you have to put aside money, because you do have to pay into all the money that you make. Yeah, honestly, just just making Facebook posts, posting in all of, like the group pages that I was allowed to post in, asking friends to share, um, and doing a lot, getting into photographer groups to like learn about some things, and then I eventually bought guides for the business side of things how to price myself, how to even run my Facebook page. I probably spent like $2,500 in education, maybe more to like for the business and photography education. So, uh, I was.
Speaker 1:I was fully set up by the end of 2019, so it took about six months, I would say yeah, I mine, I was all over the place like I feel like she did it kind of like the right way, um, and I had no fucking idea because I had no business background. I didn't go to school for any of the things I mean. I went to like medical school, not medical school like to be a doctor, but like for my medical assisting and stuff like that, so that doesn't teach you any of that shit. And then my personal training and they give you they at the end of that course, like they give you like options, like what are your options as a personal trainer? Like where can you work? All that stuff, but not really anything in depth.
Speaker 1:Um, and I didn't want to work in a gym, like I was just like so, um, when I started taking clients, I was just like this is when things on instagram were like really taking off, like the instagram fitness coach era started, and I was like how do I do this? Like what do I need? Like I started trying to do way too fucking much, way too fucking soon, um, and I was trying to do in-person clients and doing individual programs and I was already trying to have videos for everything, for workouts, to follow along and all of the things and it's like, but you know, no, I did way too fucking much and learned a lot, but I wasted a lot of time um for sure
Speaker 1:so in that time I focused on growing my instagram. Um, I cried a lot because I was like what the fuck do I do? And then I had been following amanda buchi, for At that point we knew a couple of the same people and I knew her from when she was still in Rhode Island or didn't know her personally, but knew of her and was following her from that point. And then when she moved and started her coaching business or she was doing online coaching at that time and then started a business about how to run online coaching businesses so I signed up for some of her programs, learned some stuff A lot of the people that still follow me and talk to me today are from that era and I learned how to do things and connected with some of the coaches that worked her programs and started building way more efficient programs like Beyond the Body. That was still a banger.
Speaker 2:Anyway.
Speaker 1:I saw you get I need a website, did I? Since I was running it off of my instagram. I didn't really do the website thing because I didn't think I needed one. Like having a link tree was good enough to put in my bio. I could give that to people. I didn't want to pay to have a website. Like.
Speaker 1:There are certain things that are just flashy and showy and that was just one of the things that at that point, I didn't yeah want to do um, now for the podcast, since doing all of my own marketing, all that shit, I we have a lot more going on like we have a website, we have youtube, we have content, we have all that stuff. But it's all stuff I learned through ashley and fitness um, trial and error and shit like that, and at this point, accepting online payments and opening shops is way fucking easier than it was in 2017. It's so much easier to get that stuff done. Yeah, and I feel like it's more like mainstream. There's more options.
Speaker 2:Yeah, there's more options, so this has definitely been the easiest project as far as, like all the ones, you're figuring it out because of just how many options and because of how many fucking times I've had to the experience yeah, you eventually like by the time I get into my next phase, which I haven't quite decided to announce yet, I want to wait till I hear back from certain things, but I feel like by the next phase I'll be like okay, I know exactly what I need to do next.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's such a good feeling, yeah.
Speaker 2:And even writing. I was doing my resume the other day because I had to update it for the next phase. I'm just gonna keep calling it that so lame for the next phase.
Speaker 1:I'm just gonna keep calling it that so late the next phase. Every time I laugh, my face is still so swollen that it's just like it does like my chin and it's just like I feel like I look like a big pumpkin right now and it just feels so unnatural.
Speaker 2:So I'm sorry if this microphone also, okay, um so, yeah, I had to update my resume and I I was putting all like my. I actually used AI.
Speaker 1:I typed in OK, if you're not using AI for almost everything that you're doing right now.
Speaker 2:I typed in like like, like, like, skills for skills, skills for a resume for a freelance photographer, and they broke it down for me. And it's so easy to write your own shit. And I just like I reworded a lot of it. And they broke it down for me. And it's so easy to write your own shit.
Speaker 2:And, yeah, I just like I reworded a lot of it and like, made it work for me, but I was like, oh my god, I didn't even like they were putting up skills that you have as a photographer that I didn't even think of, and I was like I do have that and that is relevant experience and that is like that was important, an important thing to have on my resume and I noticed that the stuff that I have, like the skills that I have acquired and the things I've just had to learn on my own running my own business like you, are an asset.
Speaker 2:You don't get that in school, right, I have a management degree event management and a, and then an art like counseling is like technically it's it is a science degree, but it's it's art. I feel like that's an art degree more than anything like like liberal arts kind of thing. So but in event management like it's not like I learned how to run a business. I didn't take entrepreneurial classes, I didn't take business. Maybe I took a couple of business management classes, but for the most part I was learning like, specifically, sports events and entertainment and how to run more hospitality side of things. So like I never learned how to, how to do it either.
Speaker 2:Like I, was all trial and error. It was all like watching YouTube videos watching Tik TOK.
Speaker 1:It was all like watching YouTube videos, watching TikToks, watching Instagrams, connecting with other photographers, and really what I've learned. I'm going to trust and find more valuable someone that did it themselves versus going to school, because it's white and black, black and white, whatever you want to say. When you're going to school and until it's applied, there's so many things that come up and things that don't work for certain things and you have to be aware of certain rules or skills or you have to individualize it for who you're working with, what's your target audience, all of these things and in school it's like you can't get into all that all the time.
Speaker 2:But also what I would have learned. So if I had gotten, if I had taken any business courses for undergrad hypothetically, when I like with the average person our age who has their bachelor's in business, I graduated in 2011. It's been over 10 years. The technology and the access to social media that people can just start online businesses like that. It's not. You don't need a business loan to start a business like you used to. You can start a business from.
Speaker 2:Literally I did not have any money. I used all of my own money to invest in myself. I didn't take out a business loan. Everything I worked for I worked for from the ground up, like it was my own, like, and that's. A lot of people are doing that themselves these days, like no one.
Speaker 1:No one's taking out a business loan and the platforms for you, like you not even to have like a brick and mortar store, like if you have yeah, a clothing line, like setting up your own online shops and so much. There's, yeah, there's so many things that's like, yeah, a lot of these things are paid for, like I pay for our shopify, I pay for our website, I pay for, like, editing things like those are monthly expenses but like in comparison to what it would be to have like a physical business it's yeah, and.
Speaker 2:And had we gotten our business degrees 10 years ago, what we would have learned would have been completely irrelevant to the world. That is now right. So we would have had, I mean.
Speaker 1:But the basics are the basics, but at the same time. The basics are the basics.
Speaker 2:Why am I gonna pay?
Speaker 1:back a loan, for yeah, it's all different.
Speaker 2:Commercials are dying you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:Like it's crazy the way things used to work. It's just not like that.
Speaker 2:It's just not like that anymore. So we, we, regardless of what your background is in, if you're going to own your own business, you are going to have to learn through trial and error, no matter, and that's how come I say just jump and build the parachute on the way down, because no matter how prepared you think you are, and when you step into it you'll figure it out, it's yeah, and it's you can't prepare for and you also are going to have preference, like everyone's different.
Speaker 2:Everyone has their own preferences. So what someone might say is a great client, um, like a crm, like a client manager thing, um, or a website builder or a pos system, whatever you like, I might hate, yeah. And so it really comes down to trial and error like take, do those, do the free trials for honey book, do the free trials for pixie set, do the free trials for like figure out what you like and that and play with it.
Speaker 2:Or I mean, if you have the money to hire someone, great. But like I've built all my own websites, I hate doing it I know I hate doing it too I hired one person one time but I've gotten decent, I've been pretty decent, but that the thing Even if you don't like it, you acquire these skills that are going to make you more marketable in the future. For whatever thing you decide to, pursue.
Speaker 1:I don't know what the fuck I'm doing with any audio shit for anything. But I'll tell you what my turnaround time for editing a podcast. I could sell that. I could edit people's podcasts. You know what I mean. Edit people's podcasts, you know what I mean. I could start a business. I don't love doing it and I want to be able to make enough money to hire somebody to edit the podcast. But it's still a skill I now have. But I'm still also molding.
Speaker 2:I've never done the audio but I do. I do edit my own videos for weddings, so I have the. I don't edit. I don't have any of the podcast stuff. Ashley does it all, but I do have the skill if I ever like. If she couldn't do it, I could figure it out yeah, I well, the podcast video is like easier.
Speaker 1:I used to try to cut it. I cut it. I used to cut it before and then upload it to the video and then try to cut the video and I was like, no, just do the unedited on the unedited. Duh. It took me like two times and I just was crying. I was like I fucking hate this shit. And then I was like, wait a minute, I can just upload the mp3 audio before I cut anything. And it's gonna, it's gonna line up perfectly within a couple seconds, so you just line the lips up in the beginning and you're good and you just cut the audio and the video.
Speaker 1:I was like holy shit, geo's, like wow, you really, um, you really did some things this week. I said you don't know, you don't even know why did it take me that long?
Speaker 2:don't know I don't know, is that just the first question? We've only done one question.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that was one question and we're 13 minutes in for one question what are your current hyper fixations? I love this one. What are your current hyper fixations, besides the pink side jacket?
Speaker 2:besides making a fur coat for my kid um pink was purple yes, it was purple.
Speaker 2:I'm also painting her a jean jacket. Oh yeah, that's been going on. It's been a slow process because it um, I should have done the base color white for all of the designs, but I didn't, and so now I'm mirroring the image on the other side and I'm just having to like layer to get the pigment dark enough on the denim, and so it's taking forever. I'm also my house. My house is my hyper. I'm trying to like get it in order, like purge. I'm purging clothes, I'm throwing shit away, I'm redecorating, repainting, like I'm just getting my home to a point where I feel at peace.
Speaker 2:At my house, I have like a place to go because we've been here. It'll be four years this December, so three, like three and a half, three and a quarter years now, and like I haven't gotten my house nearly to where it should be. My room hasn't even been like put together and I don't even have a place to go in my own house to like get away from everybody. So, like I just need like my bedroom to be like a nice little, like I want my crystals up, I want I don't have a rug. I want to paint my walls like. So, yeah, just getting my house in order and um, that's it. And like whatever my kids ask for me, ask me me to do, that becomes a hyper fixation.
Speaker 1:It does.
Speaker 2:As soon as I get asked to do something. She also asked me to make her. I didn't post this anywhere, but she asked me to make her. Told me she also needed a disco ball hair clip and I could not find a disco ball hair clip anywhere. So I bought little disco ball beads from Joanne Fabric and a little hair clip and I hot glued the disco balls on I do that shit all the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because like that's the most random thing, but like it's so easy to make your own yeah, I'm gonna like I have a ton of beads left and I feel like, yeah, I'm gonna.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, so many disco balls, yeah and that's the downside of it, because you have to buy like a pack of like 3 000 to make something that you only needed like four, and I have so many bees, yeah, and that's why I have and so many, so many random things because of projects like that yeah, I like bags of felt all over my house because I needed to make one ornament and now I have like felt and polyfill.
Speaker 1:But what was it? It was recently that it was I kept I mean, you obviously keep all those things, you spend money on it, um but I was like, oh wait, you know what I have that and you just like pull it out of somewhere, yeah, and it's like, oh geez, that's so random. Yes, it came in clutch.
Speaker 2:I needed that and it's like I'm so glad I had it I have like three hot glue guns, possibly more than that, because I every time I am at the craft store I'm like I don't really know where my hot glue gun is, so I have to buy a new one. They're like $1.99. The little mini ones, yeah.
Speaker 1:I kept buying the wrong glue sticks like the wrong size ones so I've got like the big fat glue sticks I don't even have a glue gun that takes those and then I bought a new glue gun because I couldn't find the one that it took for the original one, and it's just like what is wrong with you.
Speaker 2:You know, part of the hyper fixation or part of like the excitement of it is like buying all the stuff and then sometimes my dopamine hit, it's full and I don't need to yeah, I'm actually not gonna do it.
Speaker 1:So now I just have all this. I do that craft stuff a lot.
Speaker 2:Another hyper fixation, though, is I I really want to it's part of turning in my house into what I want it to be but we are gonna like kind of convert the dining room into like an art, arts and crafts space. Um, also, because we really don't use the dining room very often, we don't even sit at a tea I think we talked about this the kids sit at their little table, and I just want I really want it to be a space both my kids like to do, especially me, like she's loves art, so I just want them to have a space to like all right, yeah, that makes sense access it without having to worry about like making a mess um, my current hyper fixation is witchcraft.
Speaker 1:Um, I just, I've always been, I've talked, we talk about manifestation, spirituality, all of the things. I'm a witch, harry, you know like um, so I've just been like finding books about history and of religion and witchcraft and like where it all went to shit and I feel like when people hear witches, they think about black magic, but it's like praying is a ritual, going to church is a ritual, eating the body of christ is a ritual, you know what I mean. So it's like sacrifice stuff to me, right, so like I I don't do the like dark stuff, but like I've made some things happen, you know um, so anyway, just interest in trying to um further those skills, yeah, um, and you know, just become a wealth of knowledge and I want to listen to that book that you recommended.
Speaker 2:It was really helpful.
Speaker 1:Listen, everyone's going to be shocked by this. Guess what kind of witch that I fall under the category of or identify most with. Guess what the name is. I need a hint. A chaos witch. It's literally called a chaos witch. Do you want to know what kind of witch that is? That's someone that doesn't follow like A feral witch. A like she takes bits and pieces from different things. So you use crystals, you do moon water like just little pieces from different how I am different areas of witch craft, um, from different things.
Speaker 1:like you make potions or spells, and I do that. I do spell jars, um, I do manifesting all of those things. So a chaos witch is what I am and there's no like set rules. It's like what your intention is and, yeah, like it's up to you. There's. You don't have to because I get overwhelmed by like you can't do this on this day and because the moon's in this phase, like right now, we're not supposed to be manifesting or doing spells according to I'm not sure which branch of witchcraft, because we're in eclipse season. But I'm like I've manifested the fuck out of some things this week and that feels okay to me. I feel like what I don't know those rules either.
Speaker 2:I mean, I try to listen to them. It's a lot to remember.
Speaker 1:And I'm looking at. It's called secular witchcraft, and so what that is is it's not Wiccan, it's not pagan, it has no roots in religion. It's completely separate from religion. I'm not trying to be rude and that's like what I identify as, because it's not a practice like to practice my religion. It's its own thing. So that's where I'm at, and a lot of those rules are rooted in paganism and wicca and all those things, and I'm not any of those.
Speaker 2:so I want to pause for a second and ask about are you keeping your kids home the day of the solar eclipse? Are you sending them to school? I don't have you feel about it. Are people doing that? I don't know. I think I'm gonna keep me at home. I don't know why I don. I don't know. Are people doing that? I don't know I think I'm going to keep me at home. I don't know why I don't, I don't know.
Speaker 1:You just feel like you're supposed to.
Speaker 2:I just feel like I want to keep her at home, because I guess they're keeping all right. So if you're in like the direct line, they're like saying that you should stay home. This is about all different things and I don't think anything. I'm not saying anything's gonna happen, I think it's just gonna be a normal eclipse, but I just, I don't know, I'm getting like nervous because people well, isn't this like the one that hasn't happened in like?
Speaker 2:yeah, but they're also saying, like the moon's not where it's supposed to be right now, and neither is the sun and things. See, I'm not a celestial witch.
Speaker 1:I'm not like. I feel like an astrological witch like it's.
Speaker 1:I'm not, I am, but it's not something that comes super, super easy to me. So, like, I do rely on the moon and the planets to some degree, but I don't understand it enough to be in depth to be able to make the calls by those things. You know what I mean, um, and I think that something like that would just like come down to your gut, like maybe we should sit today out, you know, and if, like, you have that feeling, I have that feeling yeah, then listen to your intuition.
Speaker 1:So I think I'm leaving, I'm thinking and I also think it'd be cool to like see it with her right I mean, even if that's the reason you know, what I mean, even if it's for nothing else, but that's your intuition telling you like that's, this is yeah the way you should go, then that's what you should do. Um, but I hadn't even thought about it okay, did.
Speaker 2:Are you? Did you grow up religious like? Are you baptized?
Speaker 1:yes, I'm baptized. I made my first communion.
Speaker 2:I got kicked out of ccd before I could make my confirmation, see I was not baptized and I grew up in ep everybody's portuguese and catholic and I was like the devil oh, I know the entire. I was the whitest girl with red hair and I was unbaptized and my parents were unmarried. I don't think any of my friends parents wanted them to play with me. Yeah, all these portuguese kids.
Speaker 1:I was like I'm portuguese too, I promise yeah, coming from um, but my first generation american portuguese family? No, my mom I've been first generation american. Yeah, everybody was born in portugal, so they yeah no, actually I I realized this every once in a while and it just really like holy crap uh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:So they're very so my very traditionally christian, so my catholic whatever my dad's side is portuguese, so his great grandfather well my great-grandfather, I think was born in portugal. My great-grandmother was born here, but her parents are from portugal. So we're pretty far, pretty like a few generations.
Speaker 1:So we're pretty like they didn't speak portuguese growing up, like we did, like we have portuguese traditions, but no one spoke it or one time my mother-in-law dated this guy, um, and I won't say names, but he he was like he was a little deaf, so he spoke how he did, um, and that that's relevant and also not, but just like giving his personality. It was just like an added layer of like personality. So he would just like talk about how Portuguese he was, so Portuguese, so Portuguese, and I'm like what part of Portugal are you from? And he's like, oh, I've never been there.
Speaker 2:I was like that's how like American Italians are. I'm Italian and I have family who's just like all about being Italian.
Speaker 1:I'm like you never even been to italy well, it's not even like that, but he like hadn't been to portugal. He didn't know how to speak portuguese. Um, his dad wasn't born in portugal. I was like we're honey, we're not the same.
Speaker 2:No, we're not the same. No, it's totally different.
Speaker 1:Um, but he would try to like use portuguese custom things, but I'm like no yeah like I it was just totally different.
Speaker 2:Like for me to say, it was like racist. You know what I mean yeah, he didn't like people who weren't portuguese no, like it was, like racist against your own people racist is the wrong word, but like, like the stereotypes.
Speaker 1:When people use stereotypes to like and it's like that's not even a thing you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:he was almost like being offensive.
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah, yeah and being like, but I'm portuguese, I'm portuguese and I'm like dude, barely you're american yeah, so that was an experience he was breaking to you. He was also taking he was also taking bets on if amen was going to be a boy or a girl. Like the day I found out I was pregnant, I was like, if you don't get the fuck out of my uterus.
Speaker 2:Anyway.
Speaker 1:What's the next question?
Speaker 2:Yeah, what's the next?
Speaker 1:question.
Speaker 2:I don't even know what that question was. We went way off, oh her current hyper fixations.
Speaker 1:That really was a tangent. What's your ideal way to spend a day off? And that's in quotes. Oh, day off, and that's in quotes oh, okay, I haven't had.
Speaker 1:Okay, um, like if that, if I woke up in the house was empty, I already know there's like a lot, yes, okay. So the adhd side of me is like, well, I would just be doing all kinds of things, but I think I would stay in the house and if my house wasn't completely clean, I would probably like give it a quick once over so it felt clean. I'd light a nice little candle, I'd probably do some kind of like yoga meditation, pull some cards, drink like six cups of coffee, shower wash my hair, lay on the bed for a couple of minutes and disassociate um shower in your towel.
Speaker 2:I just lay there in my towel.
Speaker 1:Sometimes I try to get it done like fast because I just I don't have time you know, or it feels like I don't have time, so I just like rush everything, and then I would probably like listen to a podcast that I gave a fuck about, or like watch a new murder mystery show, and then, if I still had more time, I would just see how I felt and do something. That sounds like a perfect day.
Speaker 2:I would also if I had a day off, empty house, no kids, no husband and like had no nothing to do all day, I would have a slow morning like take my time, it all day. I would have a slow morning like take my time, have coffee, have breakfast, shower, like do a face mask, like do my hair, do my makeup, find cute clothes, like all that. Maybe I would clean the house.
Speaker 1:If it was like a disaster, like straighten up, like you said well, I mean, if I woke up and the house was already like clean from the previous day, I would just go about my business.
Speaker 2:But like I'm a psychopath and I have to vacuum all the time, yeah, I do too, because the dog mostly, and the children, because my house Like, yes, actually all the reasons, all the reasons, but I would like go out. Go out and get a coffee. I would want to like drive around my windows down and listen to music.
Speaker 1:I would want to go get a massage or a pedicure see, I those things I feel like are the things that I would used to want to do, but I've spent so much time out of the house the past two months that I'll just try to like be in my house.
Speaker 2:I'm in my house all the time, so I want to go I want to go out and do some self-care, like maybe go get my hair done, even if it's just like a blowout, like I I want to. If I have a day off where I have no responsibilities and I have, I have the means to do it. I want to go pamper myself. Yeah, like I'm thinking like this is my birthday. This is like the last time I've had a day off was like, go out, do whatever you want. That was my birthday and that's what I did. I got like I did all the self-care stuff. So like that's probably just just taking, just taking care of myself, and like having a yes day for me. Yeah, a little treat yourself day. But yeah, pedicure, massage, maybe all of the above.
Speaker 1:Oh, I'd get a pedicure. I haven't gotten a pedicure, I need a pedicure so bad.
Speaker 2:Valentine's Day Damn. But I definitely would want to like end the day with my kiddos and like I love the. We're also talking like ideal day off also has to have the ideal weather. I'd want to like go drive to the beach, play on the beach, watch the sunset with the kids and Pat Maybe like bring takeout on the beach and like that would be like an ideal day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm ready for beach weather, me too. I just realized that I kept like leaning over to talk into my microphone like a crazy person.
Speaker 2:I just realized that we can go to the beach together this summer, because you also don't have to go to work.
Speaker 1:Yes, it's so hard to find people to go because I don't want to go to the beach by myself what would you do if you won the lottery? Mega millions is almost a billion in all capital letters. I feel like everybody was talking about this last week or whatever the week before, like that was the thing. I don't know if they already pulled that. Did somebody already win the lottery?
Speaker 2:I don't pay attention I wonder what it is. Now, I never do either. I'm not, so let's, I will answer that question. But I also preface it with like I hate gambling so much because I hate losing money, and like even to the point where, like I won't even spend my money on a powerball ticket because, yeah, I like it's a waste.
Speaker 1:I'll go to the casino and, like I like I like to play the slots, because that's all the fuck I know how to do. But also, like I like to play roulette and stuff, like I will, we will go to the casino and stuff, but I walk away. Yeah, I'm not a, I don't get wrapped up.
Speaker 2:It actually gives me more anxiety to spend the money. We went to a holiday party, um, for one of pat's companies one year and it was at a casino, and the company gave us, gave everyone there a hundred dollar chip, every employee, and then pat also won a second hundred dollar chip so we went there two hundred dollars richer. We got there was two hundred dollars richer and I was like can we just cash out and go home, please?
Speaker 1:he said no, and then he said no and we lost.
Speaker 2:Yeah, geo does that, he gets, he really likes doing it and it was literally two weeks before christmas.
Speaker 1:I was like cash it out and we'll buy stuff for the kids and I, like my intuition, will tell me like, when yeah, my intuition told me so, just like cardi b said, if it's up then it's stuck, and that's that's how I live in the casino. If, if I'm up, we're out. Yeah, that's it.
Speaker 2:It makes me so much more anxious, like I rather. I rather put 20 in my gas tank or buy myself lunch than put it in a slot machine yeah, I don't enjoy gambling but, anyway, if I won a billion dollars, that I'll never fucking win. Yeah, because I don't play powerball. Um, I don't know if I would pay off this house and renovate this house, or if I would sell this house and buy just like a new, brand new one with a ton of land, and probably have my own homestead the second part.
Speaker 2:I just say a billion dollars I'm buying. A billion dollars is an ungodly amount of money, but they tax it.
Speaker 1:Like you would cut fs, I would add a billion dollars, you would still.
Speaker 2:No, you would have a fuck ton of money.
Speaker 1:But, um, you know how people like win the lottery and then they like they lose it all. I'm like yo, what the fuck? I don't understand. But also like I don't have that kind of money, but I would. My first thing would be go to a financial planner. Yes, financial plan. I would go to a financial planner, but I 100 would buy my own land and build yes, I would have a, and then I would get a baby cow up for a whole fucking to live off the grid.
Speaker 2:That's what I would do I couldn't.
Speaker 1:No, I wouldn't, I can't, I wouldn't. The first thing I would have to do oh, I wasn't yelling about that, I was saying the first thing. The first thing I would have to do, I would have to just go. I said that I was gonna buy land to build a house. I couldn't even do that. I'd have to go to a financial planner first, because I'd be like we're just gonna build the house, let's just add this, let's just add this, let's just add this. And then that would eat away at my thing, because that's how I do every time and it would be a billion dollar home every time.
Speaker 1:Like, literally, I had my own money to get my face done and I was like, okay, just don't, don't swipe anymore, don't swipe anymore, don't buy anything. And then I was like, fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck, so I ate into that money. So then I ended up having to use geo's money a little bit to pay for it and I was like so I had to use your debit card. And he was like didn't you have the money? And I was like, yeah, I did, and the plan was, but I kept spending twenty dollars and somehow twenty dollars times ten was $200.
Speaker 1:I didn't think that, and that's exactly why I would have to go figure out something.
Speaker 2:I'd want increments over the year, like I'd want to pay off the stuff that I need to pay off to get us set up, but then I'd want, like an allowance.
Speaker 1:You can do that right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you can have it paid out?
Speaker 1:I think no. I think I would talk to a financial advisor like first, because depending on like taxes and shit like that, like half of that goes to taxes and it's like yeah, yo um, and then figure out what the best thing is, and I mean I'm sure geo would have some idea. I would invest some of it, obviously to keep growing invest 100.
Speaker 2:so this is where the financial planner comes in. Definitely invest some, get yourself set up. I would get accounts set up for my children.
Speaker 1:Yeah, trust.
Speaker 2:Like trust and probably invest money for them too, like have them each have their own investment accounts, I would definitely donate some money. I'll be honest, I'd be donating some of it, whether it like to a charity or I would start my own or start my own, or because non-profit of some kind um, I'd probably I'd be buying sorry, I'd be buying my mama house. She has, she owns her own house, but I'd be buying her a new one.
Speaker 1:Um and would you tell people, I mean I there would be signs? Um, no, I I wouldn't, because I feel like, did I watch something recently about this, or it wasn't about the lotteries, about something. Anyway, you come into money and then people find out and they're like, well, I know you're good for it and you know my heart, I'll pay, pay you back, you know, and it's just like, did you see that? That video I showed, it's like that one guy in high school, the one guy from high school, and it's like I was fucking dying. But that's what I feel like happens and I don't want to have that. Not that because I mean I would I would give people money.
Speaker 2:I would give people money. I would give people money too, like I'd probably, and I'd go on. I would probably set up like a family vacation for my whole family, like in-laws, parents, siblings, cousins, like not, not my cousins, the kids cousins. Yeah, I would keep it quiet, but I probably, um, I wouldn't, and like I would, I would definitely help people like I I enjoy helping people, like I would want to do something positive um, maybe I wouldn't even set off alarm bells with anybody, because I feel like how many times have I talked about building a house and still haven't done it yet?
Speaker 1:so it's just like the bitch finally did it, you know, like it wouldn't even be like a thing until once it was already built. And really, where the fuck did that quartz tub come from? You know?
Speaker 2:that is a 75 000 bathroom. Where did that come from? Yeah, no, I um I feel like I'd have lots of big plans. I would set my family up, set up investments, like make sure that the money lasted and multiplied um and and help people oh, this is a funny one.
Speaker 1:What's something that's small and maybe doesn't affect you but at the same time drives you insane?
Speaker 2:Oh, it's a good question Small doesn't affect me and drives me insane.
Speaker 1:Like seeing other people do it. I automatically know what this is because I notice it all the time. Have you ever like watched people do their makeup and they pump their mascara or lip gloss? That makes me want to fucking throw stuff, like you're drying out the product, you're just fucking up all of it. You don't need to do that. What are you doing? What are you doing? And then this goes back to like I think I was like in third grade or something and one of my friends, like was using my lip gloss, like the lip smacker ones, and she was just pumping that bitch and I was like, hey, don't do that, don't do that. She's like this is how I do it. And I was like a people pleaser back then. So I was just like, okay, and then I just like twitching the whole time watching her do it graduated people pleasers and yeah, that that memory is a vivid one for me.
Speaker 1:And um and then. So when I watch people do especially to the mascara, because you're just drying that shit out. Don't tell me about how good your lashes look, no bitch, they're flaky and you're wasting it. What are you doing? Yeah, every time I see it it stresses me out so much. It's not even my mascara, it's just like that you're doing it wrong. That was immediately. I had that one. I'm wondering. I'm thinking about what else? Not a big deal, but drives you insane. Yeah, maybe something small, like people, not like a normal one would be like when people don't put their shopping carts back okay, so it's a normal one, so mine was a very specific yours, but I just I think about that when I watch makeup videos customers bad customer service like, but I feel like that's not
Speaker 2:that does affect you I feel like that's not small and it does affect me when you see customer service people being mean to other people yeah, or even like just not helpful. That irritates me, like like doing the least like I get what you mean uh, but that does affect that was that isn't small. I feel like, yeah, that is definitely an inconvenience.
Speaker 1:I think, like I had something recently I called someone or called whatever, and I was one of those things that I was putting off for a long time and I got the least help, the least help, and I was just like this is why I didn't do it for six months, you know, yeah I can't think of one.
Speaker 2:There's something that my kids do, maybe my kids?
Speaker 1:what is it the way they eat stuff sometimes that it freaks me out, like like ice cube, ice cubes, ice cream cones and stuff like that. Like the way that they handle them like it, it, it stresses me out and I'm like it's not yours, it's not yours, it's not yours, and I have to like, actively, like remind myself but that one's like in my face the mascara one literally has.
Speaker 2:No, that was that that's a good one, because it literally it doesn't affect you at all, but it drives you crazy. I'm trying to think of something that doesn't affect me. Is that weird that I have one? It's not weird. I'm sure I have it's because of that very specific time and third grade.
Speaker 1:I'm pretty sure that's that's where it comes from.
Speaker 2:There's got to be something like pat does that's like.
Speaker 1:So not a big deal that, but it drives me crazy you know how, before we were talking about how men use like a body wash for, like their hair face. Everything drives me crazy. I saw, I saw um a reel and it was like um, a brown pencil is a woman's all-in-one shampoo because, like you can do your eyebrows, you can do your um eyeliner, you could do lip liner, you can even do contour.
Speaker 1:I right, I was like holy shit it is brown liner I know, I I was thinking about it too. I do. Sometimes I do my eyeliner if I'm gonna do any or whatever, like I've definitely used a brown pencil. That is for multiple things, and I thought that was just like wow, it is wow wow, this is really.
Speaker 2:I can't believe, I can't think of anything I'm like.
Speaker 1:This just proves that I'm like because I'm high strung like I don't yeah, I don't, maybe I'm relaxed though I know, and that's I'm like you're proving my point because I'm over here like I really don't pay attention to people. I'm like it's the way they fucking do their mascara. And you're like I, you know, I can't think of anything when I look at other people.
Speaker 2:That really pisses me off for no reason um, I hate people wear pajamas in public like like straight up, like fleece or plaid fuzzy ones. Yes I don't like that I'll wear my ones from.
Speaker 1:I mean not like in public, like if I, if I have to run out to the store and I've already showered, I'm not putting pants back on, but I'll go out in the Target ones that are loose but they just look like loose pants. They're not patterned, they're just gray.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:No, like the fuzzy.
Speaker 2:Sweatpants or, like I'm talking, like plaid flannel pajama pants, or like the fleece ones with things all over it.
Speaker 1:The low rise fleece ones are so early 2000s to me.
Speaker 2:I think that's what it is. It reminds me of like 7th grade, when all the girls wore them Every time.
Speaker 1:I see them. I'm like where the fuck do you find?
Speaker 2:those Deb? Did you find those at Deb? Yeah, like Dots, remember Dots. Yes, they're probably still at burlington um oh, I saw a magazine thing.
Speaker 1:Where was it was from like anthropology or whatever one of those stores and it was like a um, it was like jeans with like a dress over it, and I was like yeah I was like this is this is happening again, yeah, yeah, this makes me feel really old because I remember my mom, like when I was younger, this is what we used to wear. And now I'm like, fuck, it's happening again, but like the early 2000s was such a traumatic time for fashion and I didn't wear.
Speaker 2:I never wore a lot of the stuff.
Speaker 1:I did wear some stuff that was trendy, but I didn't go like deep into some of the stuff that was trendy I just feel like we came from a really like polished classy, like classic vibe and we're going to like trailer park chic.
Speaker 2:We are are we gonna start?
Speaker 1:wearing. Are we gonna be wearing von dutch hats next?
Speaker 2:oh god no god, no, what, what's the? What are those ugly ass things? I'm sorry, like my best friends loved them. Ed hardy, oh, ed hardy, shoes my friends have them.
Speaker 1:I love you, guys I know you still wear them I feel like ed hardy went on for for a while ed hardy that was just past the von d dodge era it was really a loud, a loud spot. Yours is up really loud um, I was trying to level yours because I talk louder and you usually don't, but so I put yours really high up, you're welcome so yeah, I think that that's a near, that's a pet beef.
Speaker 2:I hate, but I try not to like. I try to let all other people what that makes you happy. Why should I care?
Speaker 1:why should I care?
Speaker 2:I know I try not to do stuff like but here's the difference those are.
Speaker 1:I feel like those are normal, natural thoughts, like it's normal for you to have things, but how you treat that person in return or vocalize, without being asked then that's what matters, because everybody has their own thoughts, opinions and feelings and they're all fine, whatever, but like if that person came up to you, was like talking to you and you're not, yeah, okay, then that's the only thing that fucking matters.
Speaker 1:Everybody. I don't give a shit. Everybody has something that they see and they're just like. Not for me, nope, okay. So that was a total of 11 responses, so thanks guys. Um, good job getting it together, because I um pushed it real hard for for one day and then said I going to post about it the rest of the week and I didn't. So at least we had two episodes worth of talking points. Yeah, you guys did awesome.
Speaker 2:We love these because it gives us a break. It gives us a break from my brain activity.
Speaker 1:Yeah, to function.
Speaker 2:We can just wing it and talk about like what we know and it.
Speaker 1:They're funnier episodes, I feel I feel like, yeah, and then you get to like talk about your random stuff that comes into your mind, so it makes it funner, yeah, but we digress often. Yeah, at some point um, like the adhd episode, I'd need to sit down and like write down like the statistics and stuff like that, like those kind of episodes, but that takes a lot of yeah brain, we can definitely.
Speaker 2:Um, we should do a poll for like topics that they want to yeah, I try to do that.
Speaker 1:Sometimes I don't always hear back. Everyone's just like ashley shut the fuck up, we get it. You're on a podcast. Yeah, I know it's so annoying. I'm sorry, but like you have to say something on social media like seven plus times for people to actually are you talking shit?
Speaker 2:no, I'm saying that's what you have to do. I'm not saying shit it takes. I'm saying you have to do it seven plus times on average yeah, on average it'll take like seven times.
Speaker 1:Like I know that you'll tap past the story, but one day you'll be like oh shit, I can do this or you mean to come back or whatever, and I hear that all the time. Oh, I meant to do this, can I have the link? Or whatever? That happened last time about the mother-in-law stories, so like it's a thing, but I just feel annoying doing it you're not annoying at all.
Speaker 2:I feel like I'm not doing enough because I don't always share it, because I like will like. Oh, I'll go share that in a second because I wanted you shared it.
Speaker 1:I'll go back to share it yeah, and I'll, or I'll say, I'll, remind me I want to like come up with a more like solid schedule for posts, because sometimes I feel really just like what am I supposed to talk about? Holy shit, I forgot to share that link, um, and I think I need to like write it down and just like come up with a better posting or having a posting schedule is annoying.
Speaker 2:Like to have to set that up and think about it, but it does make it so much easier once it's done.
Speaker 1:Um I think I just feel extra chaotic just because of how chaotic life has been and it's probably not that, but I feel like people listen to me talk about posting content and they're like, but most people just have, like, a regular instagram, like they're not relying on it for for anything other than just posting on instagram.
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